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Let Your Confidence Win!

“I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.”
-Emma Stone

Keeping yourself motivated, inspired and confident on a daily basis may sound easy but for women it’s s a very challenging task. Society throughout history has always perpetuated the that men are the strong ones. But let’s be honest, women have overcome many obstacles that not a single man could even comprehend the depths of doing. With that being said women have to move with confidence and a strong mind set to get things done. I look at how strong women have become over the years and I am proud to be amongst that percentage of growth.

Over a long period of time I did not know who I was, what my goal was and how to achieve confidence. Childhood trauma is real and it can damage a person either for the long haul or until you realize it’s time to have some control of your own life. I use to let the words of others determine my mood and my self esteem. My weakness was trying to be like everyone else, comparing material things while seeking approval from those I thought mattered. In my mind the confident ones, were the loud out spoken girls, who criticized others just for self humor. The girls who walked with so much confidence because they then had curves you wouldn’t see until adulthood. Learning later on that this was not the case, and most of those girls were just as lost as I when it came to knowing who they really were. As I matured life came with more challenges and there was this one saying “you need a few mango seasons” that continued to put a damper on my confidence as a young black woman. I had already endured emotionally and verbally distraught from family wrongdoing so I definitely didn’t want that coming into my adult life.

I was a young mother of a baby boy who counted on me when I still was counting on others. I then had to learn who I truly was and accept everything about this new woman that reflected in my mirror. I could not change the past nor predict the future but I was determined to become this new confident woman. Comparing to others was no longer acceptable, I began to compliment the women I admired. Owning my flaws and mistakes as genuinely as possible, my mindset began to change slowly.

Affirmations became my best friend! I established speaking positive words into my atmosphere. Giving me a boost I never seen before. Knowing you are beautiful and saying you are beautiful are two different things but when I spoke both into my life, my entire confidence changed. By learning who I am, my authentic self – that became the ultimate goal. So with that being said speak life into your life, ignore those thoughts that say you can’t or you won’t. Put God first in everything you do for he already has the master plan. Learn everything about yourself and accept it with grace. Turn away those negative people who don’t support your growth, in the confidence you begin to walk in.

Soul searching is very important in my opinion. To know what is missing within yourself will only help you move forward in retrieving the best you. Learn what you love or dislike about yourself, your strengths and weakness that determine what imperfections you can work on. Trust yourself to create the kind of person that you will be happy to live with. A woman who walks in her purpose doesn’t have to chase people or opportunities.

Philippians 4:13– “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

2 Timothy 1:7– “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

There will be days when you are just not motivated or confident in anything you do or say but when you learn who you are and what your goal is then this is only a small set back for a big comeback. You better go wash that face get you something to eat and throw on some trap music if that’s a must but you can do it. I believe in you so now it’s your turn to believe in yourself. Let go of all things negative and just focus on a more positive future. Try to see the world as your new stepping stone into something great. Despite your problems, you are a unique and special person. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Do things that you enjoy and try spoiling yourself a little.

Let’s go get that confidence beautiful, it’s all yours!

Shein Haul

So I went on a mini spree a few weeks ago because the thought of a few new items would help get me out my funk I was in. Not working, becoming an unlicensed teacher and dealing with this pandemic has me shopping online more now than ever and my husband it starting to notice. (Lol oh well)

These stores know what they are doing to us women! Amazon is my top shopping place but just about every store I look up online has items in cart or saved to favorites and I want to just keep splurging! Do you remember that movie “Confessions of a Shopaholic! I do not want to end up like her so I have to put myself on a timeout for a bit lol but here are a few items I purchased on Shein @shein.com

Shirt- Form Fitting Solid Cap Sleeve Top (size M) Item ID#968522 https://us.shein.com/Form-Fitting-Solid-Cap-Sleeve-Top-p-968522-cat-1738.html

Pants-Elastic Waist Plaid Pants (Size L) Item ID#1147585 https://us.shein.com/Elastic-Waist-Plaid-Pants-p-1147585-cat-1740.html

Shirt- Drop Shoulder Rib-Knit Top (Size M) Item ID#856013. https://us.shein.com/Drop-Shoulder-Rib-knit-Top-p-856013-cat-1738.html

Pants- Pocket Patched Peg Leg Textured Pants (Size Large) Item ID#659481 https://us.shein.com/Pocket-Patched-Peg-Leg-Textured-Pants-p-659481-cat-1740.html

Dress- Split Hem Rib-Knit Form Fitted Tank Dress (Size L) Item ID#775077 https://us.shein.com/Split-Hem-Rib-knit-Form-Fitted-Tank-Dress-p-775077-cat-1727.html

Dress- Split Hem Rib-Knit Form Fitted Tank Dress (Size L) Item ID#1071344 https://us.shein.com/Split-Back-Rib-knit-Tank-Dress-p-1071344-cat-1727.html

Okay so I also ordered a few accessories which I will share below…

https://us.shein.com/Stretchy-Multi-Strap-Open-Toe-Gladiator-Sandals-p-1018847-cat-1751.html

https://us.shein.com/1pair-Map-Shaped-Drop-Earrings-p-1076148-cat-1757.html

https://us.shein.com/3pairs-Tassel-Charm-Drop-Earrings-p-1299341-cat-1757.html

https://us.shein.com/1pair-Fringe-Drop-Earrings-p-1008543-cat-1757.html

Until My next mini shopping spree! Have you all been on a shopping spree as well? Have you noticed you are shopping more than usual?

xoxo Cici

The New Normal? Whaaattt?

What is this new normal they speak of? I am not comfortable in the mask we have to fashionably wear outside and around others but if it is a must to keep the people safe than no problem. In my opinion I don’t think we will be back to normal for a very long time. And at this point do we consider this the new normal?

Photo credit via Google Images

Have we all realized we have taken the fresh air for granted and now is more than eager to step out and be around others by any means necessary? No one likes being told what to do remember; we all couldn’t wait to be a grown up. The grown up thing to do is follow the new regulations and wait until it is safe to go out and return to the old normal we had before this pandemic. Feeling very awkward with the new form of home schooling; online education isn’t necessarily new it’s been around for home schoolers and those who take courses online but it is very new to us parents who also have to log into work from the very table we normally would eat dinner. This is totally out of my comfort zone.

The new normal of waking up early to stand in a grocery store line outside 6 feet apart waiting to buy supplies for your household. What about the zoom meeting with teachers at 9am while trying to respond to an email your manager just sent with urgency. This is a time we must appreciate the teachers for their hard work and dedication because they take the time to handle multiple children while teaching them the things they need to learn to become better little humans. I found myself indulging into drinks multiple times during the week after what felt like a long day. I don’t know but I’m still trying to navigate my way through these hard times without losing my mind.

Photo credit via google images

I have so many mixed feelings about what is really going on in the world. I am currently emotionally drained and a little mentally exhausted. I have to prayer even harder for my husband safety as he still goes out into the world. I pray for this world everyday. The people who have lost their lives due to the current illness, I pray for their families. Let’s not even talking about the Black Lives Matter Movement and protesting that’s going on. That will have to be a later post but for now please stay safe and remember to stay 6 feet part. I pray for you all.

How are you handling this epidemic? Are you also feeling drained? Let’s talk about it!

May I Smooth-Eat You!

I have been trying my smoothies again lately and because I took a long dramatic break from them I’m not sure where to start. Made purely of fruits, vegetables and if desired protein and dairy are all wonderful nutrients and for great health. I can’t be sure if i was going for weight loss completely; I just wanted to change my eating habits the right way. Thus far I have tried a few that I enjoy and thought I could share just in case you needed a few ideas yourself.

Image from Pinterest

First smoothie I have been enjoying is my Green Smoothie which includes:

  • Spinach
  • Greek Yogurt
  • Mixed Berries (I used blueberry, cranberry, strawberry, raspberry)
  • Banana
  • Almond Vanilla Milk
  • Chunks of Pineapples
  • Chia seeds

Love this smoothie the most and not just because of the spinach but its a very light introduction to a green smoothie but added with the sweetness of the berries.

Next favorite smoothie is Triple berry Smoothie which includes:

  • Frozen Raspberry, Strawberry, Blueberry
  • Almond milk
  • Banana
  • Greek Yogurt (sometimes)
  • Chia seeds

This is my berry go to! Love the natural sweet flavor and it doesn’t hurt that its a great start to your morning routine.

I’ll finish my smoothie rant with a detox Green smoothie ingredients includes:

  • Cucumber
  • Spinach
  • Carrots
  • Green apple
  • Mint
  • Chia seeds
  • Pineapple chunks
  • Ginger

I know for sure you will enjoy the journey of this detox as it cleans out your system and clears your skin I love this one for sure.

There you have it! Smoothies are a great way to get nutritional ingredients blended into one drink. The energy you get from all the fruits and veggies will benefit you in the future.

Image from Pinterest

Please comment and let me know if you try any of my smoothies and give your honest opinions.

See you guys later. Xoxo

Ps: please stay safe and don’t forget to wash your hands and practice safe distancing!

In The House Workouts

Every new year you see post on social media about workout goals, eating healthy and weight loss but by March/April either some or majority of the goals they’ve implemented aren’t being fulfilled. But I completely understand because life can take over, speaking for myself I am a mother, wife, nurse, chef, teacher, housekeeper… you get the point lol. No one gets better with excuses only lazy!

I did not want that to be me so I focused more on taking my time so I can allow myself to eventually make this a lifestyle change. I have been one of those individuals who set up unrealistic goals and never finished them due to the disconnect I felt after some time had passed. I think we desire to reach the goal in a quick way and never really considered the benefits of making it a lifestyle and how it will be a healthier change.

A few of my workouts I use now are: (some in intervals)

  • Jumping Jacks
  • Squats
  • Lunges
  • Planks
  • Running in place
  • YouTube videos
  • Meditating

My workout times vary between 35 minutes to 1 hour because some days I barely have enough time so I squeeze something in. And other days I’m being very honest with myself and I really don’t want to do anything but something is better than nothing at all. I love when my son works out with me, it’s a sense of humor with a sprinkle of comfort. He makes me laugh because he is so focused on imitating me he also helps take my attention off of the thought of working out itself. My little motivator pushes me to become a healthier me. Although he has his moments as to where I am working out and he is just sitting there on his iPad ignoring me completely.

My workout partner Jacob

So as far as my YouTube videos I browse between:

  • FittnessBlender
  • Chloe Tings
  • The Fitness Marshall
  • PopSugar Fitness

Please don’t hurt yourself trying to fit into this image of what social media tells you. I say focus on health and find something that makes it easy and fun at the same time. Add your favorite hits together and makes a great cardio playlist and dance around the living while we are social distancing ourselves. Just a 30 minute cardio can help push start your health journey.

Join me in this simple yet healthy new journey and we can motivate each other. Share with me your home workout plan and I could possibly give it a try. Hope this information was helpful please be safe and remember to wash your hands.

Much love- Cici

Rose Gold Under Eye Pads from Ross

Hey Beauties!

Do you suffer from dry or dull under eye? Well I do as well as sensitive skin so when I tend to use concealers and foundation I have to moistures really good. It can also be a problem when I over moisturize and get very oily by end of the day. Under eye pads have been a thing lately but I never knew which was best or what brands too use.

It was a beautiful day in Ross (one of my favorite stores) and there were so many different under eye creams and pads. I decided to pick a random one to try out. First thing I noticed was dehydration and thought: this is definitely what I need! It comes with 5 pairs and I used it every other day for a week. I recently used my last pair and wanted to review the product.

To say the least my under eye feels moisturized and hydrated. The product goes on very well not oily or sticky but very wet. No left over residue in a bad way but there is product under the eye to keep it hydrated. You leave it on for 10 to 15 minutes; which I did the whole 15 minutes. After removal I lightly rubbed in the product on eye and that was it.

If i had to rate product on a scale from 1-10 and 10 is fantastic…

My rate is a solid 7… wonder if i will find the product again.

Until next time- stay beautiful be blessed and buy makeup!

I am NOT my ACNE!

Having acne in your teens is a normal thing right? The hormonal changes, clogged pores and painful pimples that comes with puberty and becoming an adult is what I call a teenagers mid-life crisis. Everywhere I turned most of my peers dealt with some sort of acne. I’m not one to say it was normal because during that time in my life I never really paid too much attention to it. Pimples, white heads, black heads, redness, I mean I slowly begin to have it all and to make matters worse I begin to pick at it. I had a bad nerve issue and it was either bite my nails (which later on I realize is totally disgusting) or pick and pop my bumps/pimples, and sad enough I entertained them both.

I would like to say it started to clear up after having my son when I was 17 years old but it did not. There was scarring and oily skin but no new pimples. As I became this profound young lady I begin to acknowledge my skin and the state is was currently in. As far as scarring I couldn’t get rid of that, I honestly didn’t know how to but I tried a few different things. Creams, oils, facials, and face washes unfortunately I never stayed constant with any of them so I didn’t see any results or take it as serious as I do now.

Began wearing makeup to hide the scarring I had done to myself by age 19 maybe 20. I basically relayed on makeup and unfortunately I kinda still do now. At a point in my life I cared about what people said or thought about me. Beig called names for my slim size growing up had already done things to my confidence and ego, so this was just added jabs to my self criticism. At, times I would cry about it sometimes, not only had I crushed the little confidence I had left but just couldn’t stop hounding the clear skin people I was seeing online. Social media has it’s way of making things seem better than what they really were and I believed it. Although my now husband complimented by beauty and constantly reminds me it will get better, my acne had full control of me and my doubts.

In 2013, pregnancy hormones had hit an all time high and my acne came back with a vengeance! This time it was all over my body. I broke out all over my back, neck and arms. At this time I had to be careful of the products I used so they wouldn’t harm me or the baby, so I was very limited to the things I would normally use to treat this problem.

I’m sure their are people who are reading this and think “girl you have no idea how bad my acne or pimples were” and you would be correct I don’t know. There are people with cyst acne problems way worse then I can even imagine but it still doesn’t repair the lack of confidence I was dealing with. Try wearing makeup on the beach, or just because someone was coming over for a visit. It was a cover up; a secret, I had to hide my insecurities put this wall up and not let anyone see how bad it was. Who wants to be seen with scar-face right?

I finally hit a breaking point and decided to look into a good dermatologist. That’s when I noticed my god sister (who also dealt with acne) face was clearing up and I received her dermatologist information. Earlier this year I begin my visits and I felt okay because this time around I just felt a change was coming. My faith in the process was huge and I just knew I was stepping in the right direction with the right doctor.

Now that I am on the right track I feel more confident, free to be myself more so than ever and honestly at easy. This is still a journey to clearer skin but I’m so happy with my results thus far I am enjoying the process. All I can say is if you suffer from acne or scarring, don’t give up keep looking around for new ways to clear your issue. I almost gave up but so happy I didn’t and truly happy with my results so far.

Thank you for listening.

Let’s chat about acne what are your issues or thoughts?

Simply Happy

Most individuals are still on the search to finding happiness. I find that the simple things in life make me happy. We all want to be happy and each one of us have different ways of finding it. Any way of escaping the world around you and focusing on what makes you smile, I’m all for it! This can be a list of things. From listening to nature sounds in a dark room or being around people who love you and enjoying the laughter. Here are a few ways I find my happiness in this little big world.

1. Prayer/Meditation

2. Listening to music

3. Being around my two boys

4. Playing in makeup

5. Take walks on the beach

6. Reading/writing

7. Helping others

8. Making people laugh

9. Date night with my husband

10. Just being free to be myself around those I love

The thing about it is, it took me awhile to know what made me happy. Like others I searched high and low, in places and things but it never really made me happy. If I was happy it had only been temporary. I learned that if you aren’t happy with yourself, you will not think you deserve affection and attention. You can find something to be happy about everyday, having a drink with a friend, eating your favorite piece of chocolate or listening to your favorite song on repeat. Start appreciating what you have because there are people who or less fortunate and struggling to be happy in this big little world.

Be aware of your emotional and physical triggers. My reaction to things that bothered me had certain triggers that kept me in a place I no longer want to ever be in. I started focusing on the resolution rather than the problem. Over thinking things caused me to be unhappy and worry about things I had no control over. I can honestly say prayer and meditation helped me so much in that area. Less worry and more praying; trust me it works. I learned to let God handle my battles and for that I became more happy. If only you knew worrying causes other problems especially with your health. We all know that will just be another bill to add to the list and no one needs more bills!

I took on writing at a young age and over the years I realized how it has helped me express myself more. Sometimes sharing my feelings to friends or family scared me. I feared being judged or criticized. On top of being shy (not that sh anymore thou) I at times felt like I had no voice, so writing became my happy place. Writing was a way to express my true self in a way that brought joy to my heart. I always recommend writing to those who have a hard time sharing to others how they feel.

Walking on the beach is one of my top favorite happy places. I mean why not! The waves are so calming and view is beautiful. I know a few others who go to the beach to meditate. It’s a place of freedom a reminder that there is so much more to be thankful for. How God created this gift to the world was so brilliant. Helping others make me happy I mean I can’t do much but every little thing counts and if I can put a smile on someone face, I am truly happy. When I see someone down or not like themselves I tend to make jokes ( I’m a goofy person all the time) get them to laugh if even for a second.

The world deserves to see you happy. Choose happiness any way possible. To be happy is to choose YOU. Start with the simple things only you know what makes your heart truly happy. It is your time, time to move forward, time to let go, time to forgive, time to just be free and simply happy.

Write down a a list of things that make you happy and try to focus on those things more.

Let me hear your feed back let me know the things that help make you happy! Have a blessed and prosperous day.

-BeautySlayHer

Makeup look

This was a test run on video editing and my first YouTube video hope you enjoy the shorty!

Can’t remember all the products but here goes:

Primers: Maybelline Baby Skin Instant Pore Eraser, Maybelline Master Prime Base

Eyebrow: NYX Tame & Frame Tinted Brow Pomade, L.A. Girl Pro Conceal (creamy beige)

Eyes: E.L.F Mad for Matte eyeshadow Palette (summer breeze), E.L.F Liquid Eyeliner, Maybelline Pumped Up Colossal Volum’Express Mascara

Foundation: NYX Can’t Stop Won’t Stop Full Coverage Foundation (golden), mixed with No7 Beautifully Matte foundation (cool beige)

Conceal/Contour: L.A Girl Pro Conceal (creamy beige), RK by Kiss Contour Artist Palette

Setting powder: Black Radiance True Complexion Loose Powder (Banana)

Hightlighter: Ruby Kiss All Over Glow Bronzing Powder (Light Glow)

11:11

Do you seen 11:11 like all the time? So I’ve read, 11:11 is a message from divine angel beings that you need to monitor your thoughts with greater attention, and make sure you are focusing on the things that you want, and not the things that you don’t want. All the things that exist in your life are the result of your thoughts and feelings. Whether you think about the past, present, or future, you are using your energy to create a vibration within you that attracts things with the same vibration to you. The overall meaning of 1111 is that you can start manifesting your True Self –  your soul’s desires.

I decided to make 11:11 a game for my followers and at the same time share a little more about myself. There will be 10 truths and 1 lie so lets see who can figure it out.

1) I’m a Virgo- virgo women might come across shy but she is very strong and stable in the inside. Gentle, caring and kind she is always there helping others before helping herself. The Virgo female have a good understanding of human nature and can effectively help people solve there problems. She makes everyone around her comfortable. Communication skills are beyond extraordinary, she is soulful and spiritual.

Strengths- Loyal, analytical, kind, hardworking, practical, attentive, committed

Weakness- Shyness, worry, over critical of self and others, all work and no play

Likes- animals, healthy food, books, nature, cleanliness

Dislikes- rudeness, asking for help all the time, taking center stage

2) Mother of two boys- My first born arrived when I was 17 years old. Prematurely coming into the world at 6 in a half months and me not completely done with high school just yet, I was determined to be this awesome mother by any means necessary. Trying to balance school work and rocking my sunshine to sleep at night it was very challenging. I figured I had no other choice he was my responsibility so I had to grow up pretty fast and be what he needed.

My second little angel came in my life 10 years after. Now married and living a comfortable life with my mini family we were ready for the new addition to the family and came along this burst of energy. Not only was he measuring super big, he brought joy and happiness to this family without even reaching here yet. My old was excited to have a little brother, and now they are inseparable.

3) Favorite season is Spring- The greenery, the flowers and lets not forget the sunshine! I have no idea why spring is my favorite, it could be because I live in south Florida and well it’s always hot here. Shrug. The sunshine is the best, born and raised in the south I prefer sun over cold any day. Spring rewards us with beautiful flowers, and trees that seem to blossom with bright green leaves. Spring cleaning is a true statement in my house I get rid of old things, reorganize and clean from top to bottom in my house. Although I love winter as well spring just brings out the flip flops and sundresses.

4) Love shopping- Who doesn’t want to look, feel, smell beautiful all the time. Shopping to me is very therapeutic whether I’m just browsing for sales or the latest purse I love it! It makes me happy the different style of clothing from cute & classy to preppy & vintage. As a female I go out and in my mind I constantly see things I either want or need. New things make me feel different yet still the same.

5) Never been on a plane- Never have I ever been on a plane. The fear of heights scare me! Yet I would get on a roller coaster with no hesitation. I’ve only traveled by car and boat but not in the air oh naw. I mean eventually I will get there, I have places I want to travel like Jamaica, Turks and Caicos, and Paris. Maybe it’s the crowd or the horror stories from movies but I will conquer this fear very soon. Trips are in the future.

6) 9:11- So what would you say if I told you 9:11 happened in a dream just days before it really happened? While currently in the 9th grade at the time, I had this very intense dream of two planes hitting my high school with the same consistency as the actually 9:11 incident. Sleep paralysis is so real, I was awake yet everything in the moment also felt so real. I freaked out because the planes were coming for me while in school i just remember calling out for my dad and uttering the words “I love you”. I will never forget that moment.

7) Sociable Introvert- I find people intriguing and exhausting at the same time. My alone time means a lot to me, from mediating to the couch potato flipping thru shows. Small talk is annoying, if we are going to engage in conversation lets talk deeper situations and not just the weather. I’m not antisocial-I prefer to observe first and most people don’t get that at first. I like to be social….just sometimes though.

8) 12 Siblings- Six sisters and six brothers is definitely a huge family wouldn’t you say? I have siblings from my birth mother who passed when I was 14 months old, and my father was no rolling stone but let’s just say I have enough for a football team all together. I am the baby girl on my mother side, and third oldest on my father side. I will always have someone to depend on with this huge family. We are all living life but we are just one phone call away.

9) Chronic Acne- Unlike most, having this issue started after high school for me. It only got worse after my second pregnancy. A lot has to do with having sensitive skin as well. Any heavy perfumes or oils will irritate my skin and I will break out severely. Finally doing something about it I begin seeing a dermatologist this year. In due time I hope to have that natural glow with no redness or scarring. Sigh…

10) Critical Car Accident- I hear stories about this baby that survived a tragic accident back in November 1986. With only a few scratches, thrown out the window I still can’t believe this baby was me. My mother did not survive the car crash unfortunately but my father did and I am blessed with at least have one parent here. I have been told with the cries from this voice of mine, I saved my father from being left at the scene for we both were thrown out of the car in the same area. I thank the man above every chance I get!

11) I’m silly & funny- It took me a long time to come out my shell and be myself. I always felt judged or just critical on myself. I cared at one point who liked me and who didn’t. Now I’m this sarcastic, opinionated, goofy and fun person. I make everything silly and fun, which my aunts say I get that from my father. Either one I just enjoy being free funny silly goofy old me. Once you get to know me I’m sure to make you laugh some kind of way.

Now leave your comment on which you think is false, hope I shared enough for you all to also learn something about me.